Apr 8, 2015

Tamika Fuller Pens Open Letter About Losing Custody To Ludacris

Earlier this year a judge granted rapper Ludacris full custody of Cai Bridges, a love child conceived with Tamika Fuller while on break from a five year relationship. When a mother has her child taken away from her it leaves one to believe 'What could possibly be wrong with her?" to have the child's father awarded primary custody.

But when your child's father is rich and seemingly powerful, could a woman fall victim to the system? Fuller has went on record claiming Luda offered her money and a home if she aborted, she even suggested his marriage to then girlfriend Eudoxie was a ploy in appearing like a stable family. Since the ruling Tamika has stayed out of the spotlight, but now she's breaking her silence in an open letter:

"He promised me the world – trips on his private jet and other perks of the rich and famous -if I would just have the abortion. Perhaps, more importantly, he made me feel as if I was ruining us. It was as if he believed that our friendship should take precedence over the life growing inside of me and when he realized that it didn’t, it couldn’t, my real nightmare began.
I am fully aware that people often assume an average woman who gets herself impregnated by a celebrity is a gold-digger looking for a quick and easy payday. However contrary to popular belief, I was fully cognizant that I was going to be a single mother and I knew that he was not going to be involved in that process – I was okay with that. I went through my entire pregnancy alone and working full time with no support from him, most of the people in my circle never even knew he was the father until our trial made headlines. Deep down even though I knew he never wanted the baby, I have to be honest in admitting I was hurt that there was a real possibility my daughter’s father might not be part of her life. I thought that he would accept our daughter’s impending arrival and want to take part in the process, but I know now that thinking was naive.
Knowing that he had no desire to have a baby, imagine my surprise when he filed for physical custody of our daughter and a judge ruled in his favor. I was stunned, devastated and overwhelmed. I asked myself over and over again, “How could this happen to me?” What had I done wrong? It felt as if I were screaming into howling winds and no one could hear me say: I’m a good mother. I love my daughter. I’m a good mother. I love my daughter.
What kind of mother gets her child taken away? I only cut back to working less hours following my maternity leave to ensure I had enough time to spend with my daughter the first year of her life. However it was this financial reasoning along with events that transpired twenty years ago in my teens that were the sole justifications used when issuing a decision. The retribution continued to roll in because apparently taking away my child wasn’t enough of a punishment. I was additionally denied assistance with lawyer fees and told that only her father could authorize what was uploaded of our daughter to my personal social media page. As I apologized to my friends and family for not being able to share imagery of the evolution of my child, I must admit I scratched my head trying to understand what Instagram censoring had to do with disparate income levels. Subsequently I now have no child, no First Amendment rights and I’m in debt to a tune of six figures.
Read the entire letter in full via Madame Noire